“How do you hold someone’s attention and make them miss you?”
This question has been asked by women since the beginning of time?
When it comes to romantic love, there are several different kinds.
Long-lasting, committed, romantic love that lasts a lifetime has everything to do with trust, commitment, and connection. Lifelong lovers are often best friends who have enjoyed doing life side-by-side.
But there are also people who either enjoy or are destined to getting involved in short-term relationships.
Human beings were created to need connection and companionship. It is only natural to deeply miss the people you feel most connected to.
So how do you make someone miss you like crazy? What do you have to do to make someone’s heart and soul miss you with a passion?
There is actually a physical and mental side to “love”. When we are happy or in love, our body produces a surge of dopamine and serotonin – ” natural feel-good drugs”. Our bodies LOVE being in love!
But what creates the perfect setting to actually make you MISS being together?
Below are 5 ways to make him miss you like crazy.
1.) MAKE HIM FEEL INCREDIBLY SPECIAL WHEN YOU’RE TOGETHER
…if he is completely interested in you.
Treat him like he is the only man in the world – the only person you will ever be interested in!
When you see him, get excited! Smile, laugh, run to him, and give him a hug (and kiss if you are at that point).
There isn’t a man in the world that dislikes this treatment!
Make him feel like a king. Listen to him and take an interest in what he is saying.
Then when you are apart from each other, don’t crowd him.
Wait for him to make the next move… (read #3)
2.) ACTUALLY BE THE KIND OF WOMAN HE WOULD MISS
If he genuinely doesn’t enjoy being around you, it will take a miracle to change that.
This is a completely normal scenario. Some human beings just don’t have any connection.
But do you genuinely enjoy each other?
Do you laugh at the same jokes, have similar interests, enjoy long, deep conversations, and simply enjoy each other’s company?
Or do you find yourself bickering, nagging, getting jealous, and increasingly unhappy?
Which kind of “relationship/interaction” do you think you would miss coming back to?
Most men are not complicated and they will tell you this! Almost all men love respect, attention, companionship, peace, and beauty.
Be the kind of person that he will actually miss!
This does NOT mean that you need to change yourself. PLEASE DON’T DO THAT!
However, if you are excessively possessive, jealous, temperamental, or sometimes unkind, you’ll need to work on that.
3.) WHEN YOU’RE APART, LET HIM PURSUE YOU
We live in a time where women often initiate dates and relationships. This works well for some relationships.
But sit back and take a good look at men’s natures since the beginning of time.
They are natural-born hunters and they love the thrill of the chase!
Yes, yes…women can enjoy it too. But men have a passion for the pursuit, the hunt, the chase. And at the end, there is a really big PRIZE!
This isn’t sexist or chauvinistic! YOU ARE A PRIZE that deserves to be won!
And since it is in his nature to pursue something that he sees as valuable, let him!
Don’t play excessively hard to get. You don’t want to discourage his pursuit of you (if he is a good man).
Respond to his efforts in a positive way. Put effort into making things work, but don’t force things to move forward quickly.
If you want a man to miss you, he needs to think about you! Don’t always come running to him! Let him come to you.
Side Note: Some women may think that this advice is outdated. But statistics, studies, and poll results back this up every single time. Men want to pursue.
4.) DON’T BE LIKE ALL THE OTHER “GIRLS”
Has he had past girlfriends or love interests?
Don’t be like those other girls or you’ll just fall into line! You want to be DIFFERENT – you want to stand out.
Listen to him. What are the things he talks about? What have you noticed about him. Does he have specific preferences?
What makes you different from those other girls? DO THINGS YOUR WAY!
For instance, did those other girls chase him? Then don’t chase him!
Did they let him take them out on dates and he pay for them? Then you insist on paying. (Perhaps he will insist on paying, but at least you offered!)
Did they go “too far, too quick”? Don’t be that girl!
Were they dependent on him for certain things? Then be very independent and self-sustaining!
Sometimes, you may find that some “old-school charm” is incredibly valuable.
For instance, if the man likes home-made cookies, then make him some cookies! Cook something special just for him.
You’d be very surprised at how many men mention this long after it happens! (No, seriously! Guys LOVE delicious food! And having it come from YOU makes a lasting memory/impression.)
Don’t feel timid to take a chapter from your Grandma’s 1940 dating book. Much of that advice given back then was laughable (and misogynistic), but some of this old-school advice still applies today!
Although social norms have changed, men’s true natures really haven’t! They like to be spoiled.
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5.) DON’T TRY TO MAKE HIM MISS YOU – GIVE HIM SPACE
Nothing says “I’m desperate!” more than a person trying too hard to get someone’s attention!
Men know when we’re trying too hard!
First of all, acknowledge that YOU are valuable and you worth far too much than to grovel for attention.
If a man leaves you second-guessing his affection or purposefully incites jealousy in your relationship, he isn’t worth keeping around anyways!
But if you truly care for one another, you don’t need to waste your energy on trying to make him miss you! It will show.
Stop posting on social media all the time or tagging him in posts.
Stop “keeping tabs” on him and incessantly messaging/calling him.
Don’t purposefully try to make him jealous by projecting an image of you enjoying the company of other men. (More times than not, it will have the opposite effect.)
Instead, give him a healthy amount of space! He NEEDS his alone time!
Don’t make him feel guilty for needing some time alone, without you. It is a very healthy part of your love life!
Spending all of your time together can eventually cause tension and even boredom!
Encourage him to go out with his friends! This doesn’t mean that he is unfaithful to you! (If he is, lose him.)
However, he will LOVE that you aren’t trying to change him and that you are happy by yourself (or out with your friends) while he is out doing things he enjoys without you.
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Remember, you should always demand respect and equality in your relationships.
If the man in your life is treating you with disrespect and taking you for granted, let him go. He isn’t worth your valuable time!
Respect who you are, never lower yourself to a level of degradation, and don’t ever lower your standards for a man.
There is nothing wrong with wanting someone to miss you!
Just know that you don’t want to achieve this, only to find that you have “lost yourself” in the process”.